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    4 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned from Minimalism: A Documentary

    I’ve been really into documentaries lately. Like, so into them. I watched Iris, Twinsters, Jiro Dreams of Sushi and Exit Through the Gift Shop.

    And then I watched Minimalism, a documentary that follows two best friends and creators of The Minimalists, Ryan Nicodemus and Joshua Fields Millburn, on their cross-country book tour. It’s crazy good and I seriously can’t stop thinking about it.

    Because I don’t know about you, but the thought of decluttering and living with less is liberating. I’ve been telling myself for a year now that I was going to make it a personal project to clean house. But, I want to do it for real this time. No more excuses.

    I know that a drastic lifestyle change like this won’t happen over night (I’m not making plans to toss my things and live out of a van any time soon), so I decided to start small and focus first on my disaster of a closet. A closet that was filled with clothes I never wore, but held onto because I “might need them for that imaginary event one day.”

    But we all know “one day” never comes. So, why did I hang onto pieces I didn’t love? Why do you keep clothing you don’t wear?

    It’s a mystery, that’s for sure.

    I’ll be sharing more about my downsizing process in upcoming posts, but in the meantime, here are some of the key life lessons I learned from Minimalism:

    1. Living for stuff isn’t living at all

    I love stuff. Most of us love stuff. We work for a paycheck so we can buy more stuff, and then we wonder why our savings accounts don’t look as big as they should.

    That’s because as humans, we’re wired to be dissatisfied. So that one new shiny thing eventually becomes that thing we toss in the trash. Not because it doesn’t serve a purpose anymore, but because it’s not “in” or fashioniable.

    Which brings me to the next lesson…

    2. The hunger for happiness will never be fulfilled by purchasing more things

    Two words: retail therapy. I’m sure you used this coping method before when you had a bad day, right? Don’t worry, I’ve been there, too. More often than I’d like to admit.

    Usually, it involves a trip to Target where I end up buying home decor, makeup, clothing and whatever else I see and feel like I can’t live without. Do I love any of it? Not really. Do I need any of it? No, of course not. Sure, I feel happy in that moment, but that moment doesn’t last for long and then the buyer’s remorse sets in.

    So, what do you do?…

    3. Keep the possessions that serve a purpose and bring you joy, toss the rest

    This tip was key as I went through my closet. I was only wearing roughly 20% of the clothing I owned. The rest I hadn’t touched in months, or even years. And that was CRAZY to me. So I went with my gut on this. I picked up each item, took note of how it made me feel, and if that feeling was less than stellar, into the donate pile it went.

    I filled four large garbage bags with clothing, shoes and accessories and all that remained was the clothing I loved. It’s an amazing feeling.

    4. “Love people, use things. The opposite never works.”

    *mic drop* Because this quote really speaks for itself.


    Have you watched Minimalism yet? What did you think? Would you be willing to give up your stuff in favor of a more simple lifestyle?

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    Top 10 Posts of 2016

    Oh, 2016. What a year. A lot of people swear it’s a cursed year, one that claimed so many talented musicians, actors/actresses, performers and just all around good people. Then there was the election and Zika and Brexit.

    Maybe everyone is right about 2016. But, maybe not.

    Because as far as I’m concerned, good stuff happened, too. And we all need to focus more on the good stuff.

    2016 was my year for growth. I got settled in a new city, earned a promotion at my day job, moved in with Fritz, chased my passion for photography and made some new, kickass friends.

    It’s true that every New Years Eve is bittersweet. It’s filled with excitement for what’s to come. But there’s also a bit of sadness that another year has come and gone, no matter how ready you are to say goodbye, see ya never.

    Before we slip on our “2017” glasses, pop the champagne and countdown in unison, I just want to take a moment and say thank you for reading NWH. This little space brings me so much joy, even if I’ve recently neglected it more than I’d like to admit. You being here means the world. And I hope to continue to produce more content (more frequently) in the next year.

    Without further ado, here are the top 10 posts of 2016:

    1. DIY TO TRY: MARBLE PLATES AND BOWLS

    2. INTO THE WOODS: FALL STYLE FOR HIM AND HER

    3. HERE TO DISRUPT LLC: THE GROUP THAT’S DISRUPTING THE CULINARY SCENE (IN THE BEST WAY)

    4. COFFEE TALK: ON MOVING TO A NEW CITY

    5. FEELING LOST? THE SIMPLE QUIZ THAT WILL HELP YOU FIGURE OUT “WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE” 

    6. WINE COLORED ROMPER

    7. FEELING BURNT OUT? HOW TO FIND INSPIRATION AGAIN

    8. FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU MAKE IT: HOW TO GET TAN, GLOWING SKIN AT HOME

    9. CORDUROY MINI SKIRT + WHITE BLOUSE

    10. FLORAL DRESS + LEATHER JACKET

     

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    Coffee Talk: Dealing with “When Are You Getting Married?” and Other Intrusive Life Questions

    Coffee Talk is a monthly series that dives headfirst into real life territory. Consider it like a deep conversation with a friend where nothing is off limits. Take a seat, grab your mug and let’s chat.

    I’m 26 and I’ve been dating the same amazing guy for eight years. We met in college, dated long-distance for three years after graduation, and just moved in together this past May. He is my partner in life, and something as simple as splitting dish duty with him, reinforces the fact that we are a team, through and through. I won’t bore you with my sappiness, but he really is the real deal.

    We’re not married, though. We’re not engaged either. And for the past four years, I’ve been asked the same question from family members, friends, co-workers and random strangers at the grocery store. I’m convinced it’s the new form of small talk that goes something like this — “How’s your career? Are your parents doing okay? Oh, and by the way, when are you getting married? When’s he finally going to ‘put a ring on it?'” (key emphasis on “finally”). As if “putting a ring on it” validates that we are in a real, committed relationship.

    I love my friends and family more than anything and I know when they ask this, it’s not coming from a malicious place. They’re generally curious about the happenings in my life, and for that I am truly thankful.

    But, I wish I could tell them how these questions make me feel. Or, how their reactions imply that because we’re not engaged, it means we don’t love each other enough, we’re not serious enough or something is legitimately wrong with me for making the decision to cohabitate before saying “I do.”

    I’ve had people tell me “it’s never going to happen” or “I hope it happens before I die.” I’ve even had someone tell me I’m “wasting my time” which is the most hurtful response I’ve received to-date.

    When we do get engaged someday, I don’t want the reason to be, “I dragged her along for long enough and I guess it was just time,” like I’ve heard a few guys say after proposing to their girlfriends. I don’t believe that is a good enough reason. I don’t want to get married because society deemed it the big thing you’re supposed to do next. Societal norms are not one size fits all. And no one is dragging me against my will here.

    Marriage is so much more than a wedding. It’s more than a Facebook post of a girl showing off her new sparkly diamond with the caption, “He asked, I said yes!!” It’s more than a $30,000 party. Marriage is a commitment to doing life — the wonderful, the less than wonderful and the downright ugly — with another person.

    When I think about us getting married, I don’t think about the wedding (the thought of a big wedding makes my palms sweaty). Instead, I picture my life with him — a life that involves traveling the world and growing old together on a beach somewhere, as cliche as that sounds. A life that is less than perfect at times, but one I wouldn’t trade for anything. A life that is similar to what we have now, but instead, involves kids and grandkids and a mortgage.

    But, before I check all of those items off of my list of to-do’s in life, there’s a few things I want to do first. I want to pursue a career that ignites my passion for creativity. I want to continue to surround myself with inspiring women entrepreneurs and business owners who encourage me to push myself every day. I want to venture to the Pacific Northwest. I want to gaze into the depths of the Grand Canyon. I want to see the Northern Lights.

    Do I want to get married someday? Yes. But, I’m happy right now. We’re happy right now. And that should be okay.

    No matter what stage of life you’re in, I’m sure you’ve been asked questions along the way. You know the ones (Are you dating anyone? Are you going to have kids? Are you two going to have another?). You probably know intrusive questions can be hurtful and just downright awkward, depending on who’s asking them (do you really want to know if someone is “trying” to have a baby? Or, do you really want to stand there with your foot in your mouth when they tell you they can’t?).

    Instead of letting the questions and the anxiety over how to answer them get to you, it’s important to remember that everyone has a different life path, and just because your path doesn’t line up with your friend’s, that doesn’t mean your route is the wrong one. Do what makes you the happiest version of yourself.

    You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Others are going to think what they want to think regardless. Let them.


    How do you respond to difficult personal questions? I’d love to know.

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    How to Hit the Gym On Your Lunch Break (When You Work in an Office)

    How to hit the gym on your lunch break (when you work in an office) | NatalieWasHere.com

    Feature image via Happily Grey

    Happy December! Can you believe 2017 is just a month away? It’s crazy how time flies. And speaking of a new year, my goal (along with the rest of America) is to get in shape. You know, actually make time for the gym. If you’re in the same boat, then today’s topic is for you!

    I am not a morning person. I’m also not really a “head to the gym after work” kind of person. This makes the chances of me working out at all pretty slim. And staying active is so important. Especially if you’re like me and living that #sedentarylifestyle. So, I made the decision to make exercising a priority. To do this and fit it into my daily routine, I went to the gym during my lunch break.

    If you’re a busy mom who wants to make time for her family and her career and herself, or a twenty-something like me who really values her extra hours of sleep in the morning and the occasional Netflix binge post-work, then listen up! Working out over your lunch break might be one of the best things you can do for yourself. Not only does it help break up the day, and get the blood pumping, but I find it really helps my brain recharge, so I can tackle the rest of the afternoon and avoid hitting the dreaded 3 p.m. slump.

    Are you thinking of giving the mid-day work out a try? Scroll below for some tried and true tips:

    THE TIPS

    1. Lay out your clothes the night before

    You absolutely have to plan ahead if you want to make this work. The night before, I’ll lay out my clothes for work and pack my gym bag with everything I’ll need so it’s easy to grab and go in the morning.

    2. Pack your lunch

    Because I’m given an hour for lunch, heading to the gym doesn’t leave any time for grabbing something on the way.

    3. Put it in your calendar

    Call me crazy, but I am less likely to blow something off when it’s on my calendar.

    THE ROUTINE

    Walk to the gym (3 minutes)

    The gym I go to is right up the street from my office, which is really convenient. If you don’t have a gym near you, grab a co-worker and go on a walk around the block. Or if you’re looking for something a little more intense, slip on your gym shoes and jog or run for 30-45 min. Every little bit helps!

    Change (2 minutes)

    When I get to the gym, I head to the locker room first to quickly change into my workout gear. I remove my makeup with my two all-time fave products, Neutrogena Makeup Removing Wipes and Simple’s Miceller Water (LOVE this stuff). Then, I’ll put on a killer playlist (I’m loving this one) and get ready to go.

    Get a solid HIIT workout in (30 minutes)

    Because my time at the gym is limited, I make the most of it by working out at a high intensity level for 30 minutes. This usually involves weights, squats, jump rope, etc. Tone It Up has some great workout routines that really help you squeeze in a solid workout, no matter how much (or little) time you have.

    Stretch (5 minutes)

    Once my 30 min are up, I’ll grab a mat to do some ab exercises and stretch for about five minutes.

    Shower (3 minutes)

    I’ll hit the shower for a quick 3-minute rinse. I wash my hair the night before, so I don’t have to at the gym. This used to weird me out, but trust me, dry shampoo is a life saver.

    Get dressed, apply makeup (10 minutes)

    This step is pretty self explanatory. I keep my makeup routine as simple as possible so it’s quick and easy. Scroll below to see what’s in my makeup bag.

    Head back to the office (3 minutes)

    After my afternoon workouts, I always feel refreshed and ready to take on the rest of the afternoon!

    THE MAKEUP BAG

    This is not your standard makeup bag. Working out should be hard, but applying your makeup after your workout doesn’t have to be. My gym makeup bag is filled with simple, multi-tasking products that help me feel refreshed, but not overdone. Here’s some of the products I can’t live without.

     

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    7 Ways to Make New Friends in your Twenties

    I’m a contributor for Gen Twenty, and this post originally appeared on GenTwenty.com.

    Let’s face it – making new friends when you’re younger is relatively easy. For most of your childhood and adolescent life, you’re surrounded by people your own age. On the playground, in the classroom and at football games on Friday nights. You sat next to the same group of people in your math and English classes, walked home from school with your best friend and shared a cabin with a group of girls at sleep away camp.

    Years later, you went off to college, where you were one of many nervous freshmen, open to meeting as many new people as possible. Everyone was essentially in the same boat. You crammed for finals with your classmates, went grocery shopping with your roommates on Sundays and walked to parties with the girls who lived in your hall.

    In grade school, high school and college, friendships were generally valued in terms of quantity, not necessarily quality.

    Then you graduate, move to a different city and start a brand new job. In the real world, you’re in an office, working alongside your coworkers who are all in different stages of their lives  – some are married, some have families and some even have grandchildren.

    You’re no longer in the same setting you were in prior to graduation, and meeting people in the same place as you suddenly isn’t as easy as it once was.

    So, what’s next? How do you meet new people? Where do all the twenty-somethings hang out?

    Making new friends after college can be challenging. But, it’s not impossible.

    Here are seven ways to make new friends in your twenties:

    1. Discover your passions first.

    Before making new friends, it’s important to get to know yourself on a deeper level. Life after college is completely unpredictable, but it’s the perfect opportunity for a little self discovery.

    Ask yourself, what are you really interested in? What drives and motivates you every day?

    If you love running, getting involved with a local running club is a great place to start. If you’re like me and have a blog, connect with other bloggers in your area. Doing things you love makes it easier to connect with others who share the same hobbies as you, and will help you form more meaningful friendships.

    2. Reach out to those with similar interests.

    Once you figure out what it is you really love to do, reach out to others with similar interests. Instagram is a growing community, and as far as social media goes, it’s one of the best tools out there for meeting and connecting with like-minded people in your area.

    Maybe you’re interested in pursuing photography and are really inspired by a local photographer you follow on Instagram. Send her a private message and see if you can meet up for coffee or lunch. Not only will this help you grow your professional network and give you the opportunity to grow your skill set, but it will also open the door to new friendships, too.

    3. Connect with mutual friends.

    Grab drinks with your friend and her co-worker she’s been wanting you to meet for months. Connecting with mutual friends will help you ease into meeting new people, without the fear of things getting awkward.

    Because you share a mutual friend, it’s a little easier to break the ice, and it’s more likely you’ll hang out again in the future.

    4. Join a co-ed sports team.

    Even if you’re not the most athletic person around (yes, I’m totally referring to myself), joining an intramural co-ed sports team is a fun way to let loose after work and meet new people at the same time.

    Most young professional organizations have opportunities to join teams, from softball to sand volleyball, so keep an eye out for what’s going on in your area. If it will make you feel more comfortable, bring a friend with you to help calm your nerves.

    5. Find your school’s local alumni group.

    Every city is filled with alumni groups, and joining one is a great way to meet people who went to the same school as you.

    Even if you move across the country, chances are there is a local alumni group that gets together for trivia, game nights, etc.

    Reach out and make new connections. Cheering on your school over chips, queso and margs is an surefire way to form new friendships.

    6. Get tech savvy.

    Chances are, you know people who have met their boyfriends and girlfriends on apps like Tinder and Bumble. We live in a digital age. There’s no reason why you can’t meet new friends the same way.

    If you’re overwhelmed with your new work schedule and don’t feel like you have the time to dedicate to joining every club out there, sign up for apps like Meetup and Bumble BFF.

    They are great resources, and can help connect you with people in your area. 

    7. Don’t be afraid to make the first move.

    Making friends is a lot like dating. It’s actually hilarious how similar the two are. And while it would be nice for people to always approach you at every networking event, remember that sometimes, it’s up to you to make the first move.

    Be brave and put yourself out there. Go to networking events and proactively introduce yourself to people there.


    It might take some creative thinking and a little extra effort, but you will make new friends in your twenties, thirties, and beyond.

    Just remember, most people are going through the same things you are. You just haven’t met them yet.

    You might also like: On True Friendships and Moving to a New City

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    Feeling Lost? The Simple Quiz That Will Help You Figure Out “What You Want to do with Your Life”

    What would you tell your 21-year-old self? I’d tell her to wear sunscreen, drink more water before she goes out for the night and spend less money on clothes. And while there are other life lessons I’m sure she’d benefit from, one of the biggest pieces of wisdom I’ve learned is this — it’s okay to not have everything figured out on graduation day, or even four years later. It’s okay to feel like your next big adventure has yet to be discovered.

    I’m creative by nature. I’m disorganized and visual and always conjuring up big ideas in my head. Sitting at a desk all day never felt right, and some days, I know I’m meant to do so much more. But, what is it? What am I supposed to be doing? How can I find my passion and make a career out of it?

    If you’ve had any these thoughts, you’re certainly not alone.

    A dear friend of mine (hi, Sarah!) recently introduced me to Clarity on Fire, a blog written by career coaches, Rachel East and Kristen Walker. The dynamic duo writes for millenials who “know what they don’t want, but have no idea what they’d rather be doing.” Sounds familiar, right?

    Their blog content is designed to help you find your passion. Because let’s be honest, we all want our careers to bring us joy, fulfillment and ignite our creativity. But, it’s nearly impossible to get there without truly knowing yourself first.


    SO, LET’S TALK ABOUT THIS QUIZ: HOW TO FIND YOUR PASSION

    Clarity on Fire’s Passion Profile quiz will help you identify your natural strengths, characteristics and challenges.

    There are four possible outcomes, and depending on your results, you could fall into one of the following categories: Firestarter, Tribe Member, Side Hustler, or Thriver.

    I’m a Firestarter, which according to Clarity on Fire, means I am “driven by an internal fire, a deep craving to create, transform and shake things up.”

    I’m attracted to flexibility, rebellion, independence, leadership and freedom. I don’t like to follow the rules (who said rules were fun, anyway?) and I can’t help but challenge the way things are.

    And while I learned about my key strengths, the quiz also helped me identify some challenges. For example, I learned I’m often distracted, impatient, not easily satisfied and overwhelmed by the amount of ideas I have (ha, truth).

    This Passion Profile quiz has been called “scarily accurate” and for good reason. If you are struggling with identifying where your passions lie, take a few minutes out of your day and answer 11 questions. Remember to be honest! Don’t pick an answer because it’s the “cooler” one. Go with your gut for the best results. I promise you won’t regret it.

    Which Passion Profile are you?

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    Career Chat: 6 Tips to Help You Network Like a Boss

    Alright, friend. Let’s talk about networking for a second. Does the word bring on sudden waves of anxiety? Does the thought of shaking hands with random strangers make you want to crawl into a hole instead (believe me, I’ve been there)?

    The whole process can be really intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be.

    With the right attitude and approach, even the most introverted people can excel at building and maintaining strong professional relationships. And an added bonus? Some connections might even blossom into friendships.

    Today, I’m sharing six tips for networking success on GenTwenty, a site that provides twenty-somethings with support and reassurance through all aspects of life (I’m a contributor now, so be sure to follow along!). Pop on over to read the full list.

    I’ll see you there :)


    What are some of your tried and true networking tips?

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